Self Esteem For Optimal Personal Growth
 Self esteem is so critical not only to your
personal goal setting
-but to so many other aspects of your personal and professional life as well. Without the
self esteem
and
confidence building
reassurance that you need to have for your own personal development and growth-your chances of developing further into the total person that you are capable of becoming is greatly diminished.
Every human being that has ever walked this earth (myself included), has experienced sometime in their lives, periods of
low self esteem
, and has questioned the issue of confidence building in their own lives as well. Obviously this is of concern to you or you would not be on this web page reading about building self esteem for yourself and how to go about the process of confidence building and improving self esteem.
Maybe your low self esteem is result due to
weight loss
, or
career
challenges that you are currently experiencing and dealing with at this time. The point is you are not alone-and far from offering you the ”magic pill” to make your self esteem problems completely disappear, self esteem building, confidence building and various self esteem exercises are at your disposal so you can regain the confidence and self esteem which have always been yours for the taking...
Steps to Building Self Esteem and Confidence Building
1. Accepting and Embracing Change:
This is the probably the biggest factor that I have observed in the many individuals that I have coached and mentored regarding
personal goal setting.
You can read my story
about me
here.
As human beings, we are all creatures of habit. We have set daily rituals that we adhere to. You wake up in the mornings at a specific time, go to work at a specific time, come home at a specific time, eat your evening meal at a specific time, and then you go to bed at a certain time just to repeat it all over again the next day.
However, when your daily routines are interrupted for a period of time, due to the loss of a job or
grief
, due to the loss of a loved one. Obviously-these factors put additional
stress
stress not only on you but on your family.
Change is a fact of life for everyone on this planet-there are no exceptions to change and you and I have to accept this reality and to make the best of it.
There is a great little book that I would encourage to buy and read: “ "Who moved my Cheese”. This powerful little book put into perspective the change element and how you and I must also evolve and embrace change if you and I are to develop into the people that God intended for you and I to become.
This book helped me tremendously when my contract job with the the US government ended and I found myself working and living in Bangladesh for a year separated from my wife and family.
2. Face Your fears in Life
Everyone in life is afraid of something, whether it is
fear
of failing in your
marriage
, or in your own
work at home business
, fear is real and has a paralyzing affect in keeping you from developing and growing. Personally, I believe God uses fear for all of our spiritual growth and development. How can you and I ever develop to the full potential of our lives if we are not tested from time to time.
Use fear to your advantage, if you’re fearful of public speaking, enroll in a public speaking class, if you’re fearful about some aspect of your job at work or in the field, confront your managers and approach them with a plan in addressing your fears head on. Only by doing these steps will you be able to overcome the very barriers in your personal and professional life that is preventing you from reaching your optimal potential.
3. Become Assertive
Assertive
Let me differentiate-there is a difference between being assertive and domineering. Domineering is where you are controlling the situation, assertive is just voicing your concerns or your wants in a non-threatening but assertive style.
If you look at the success of people around you-you will notice several similar characteristic traits-one being assertiveness. How do you become assertive if you never have before? You have got to start by asking, by stating by not remaining voiceless next time you are in a conversation or a situation.
Becoming assertive in life is just like any
fitness goal
exercise program that you attempt to do, it takes time-
but...
you will become increasingly more confident and efficient with your progress overtime.
4. Know What You Want and Develop A Plan for Getting It
Many failures in life are the direct result from either unrealistic goals not using
SMART Goals
, or from never attempting your goals in life. Remember: Confidence Holds the Keys to Success… You’ve got to have the confidence before you can believe it to actually achieve it. Regardless of what your goals are and ambitions are in life, you need to put down on paper what you want, believe that you will accomplish them-then develop a plan in obtaining it...
It doesn’t matter if it takes you two months or two years-the important thing is that you start somewhere NOW.. Life is full of people who claim: Could of…Should of…Would of…. You are both your best friend and arch nemesis in your goal setting aspirations. Which side will emerge in you? Dare to be different and take back control of your your life in bulding self esteem and confience building in your life.
Remember: ”The only Unfulfilled Goals in Your Life are the Ones you Never Attempt”
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